by iamclinic | Dec 20, 2019 | Couples Counseling, Sexuality
Given our natural neurology, open relationships will mean different things to different people. Our sexbrain––the name for the various mechanisms found within our physical bodies and neuroanatomy that guide self-understanding and intimacy at large––is determined by a...
by iamclinic | Dec 19, 2019 | Couples Counseling, Sexuality
Two strapping young men sat on my couch, wet boots soaking the office carpet. The heavy rain outside was nothing compared to the ways in which they felt drenched in hopelessness. Both toiled over the consideration that an open relationship might be right for them. In...
by iamclinic | Dec 17, 2019 | Couples Counseling, Sexuality
Open relationships are the new sandbox where many LGBTQ+ persons test out their relational skills. Can we explore new relationships and not violate one another’s boundaries? Will our health,our sex and our emotional intimacy thrive because of open relationships, or...
by iamclinic | Nov 15, 2019 | Sexuality
I like to think that counseling is a snowglobe of our expansive relational, emotional and behavioral lives. The counseling office is a safe container to test internal narratives, share embarrassing patterns and learn new ways of existing with fulfillment. That comfy...
by iamclinic | Oct 30, 2019 | Sexuality
I ran to the altar to confess to God what I’d done. The clothes in my suitcase still had sand in them from the beach vacation with a man I called my friend, but who was really my boyfriend…for 5 years. Tears running down my face, thinking I could ugly cry my way back...
by iamclinic | Jun 20, 2019 | Sexuality
As a young boy I might have passed out had I glimpsed the future and who I would become. I grew up thinking I’d marry a woman and have kids. I was detrmined to create a heteronormative mirage—oops! I meant marriage—to feel normal and please my friends and family. I...
