Lesbian Couples Therapy

We are a team of queer therapist who not only come with professional training, but personal experience. We have been working with lesbain couples since 2010 and have had the opportunity to become very skilled at knowing your unique struggles and offering precise fixes. Because we only work within the queer community, we know what to listen for, common hurdles, and the shortest routes when it comes to making lesbian relationships work. In our work, you don’t have to teach us about your reality. Chances are, we’ve experienced it ourselves. 

iAmClinic uses a very particular model where we identify very particular patterns in your relationships as the means to pinpoint the root cause of your challenges. Our modalities don’t just allow us to help you change behaviors and inspire new patterns, but we also look deeper to the wounds that motivate your repeating interactions. As we heal from those wounds in therapy, we develop new skills, of course, but you also learn what it feels like to be in a safe and trustworthy relationship. On this deeper level, this is where the magic happens.  

Success is defined by our clients. We want you to have full reign over your life, your emotions, and your relationships. As queer and trans therapists, we know what it means to have someone else define your life for you. At iAmClinic, we work with you to define your version of success. When you leave our office for the last time, we want you to be proud who you are and how healthy your relationship is.

Therapy is a journey and this means it can take a variety of courses. Typically in couples, throuples, or polycule therapy we like to keep you all together. Doing so allows us to address difficulties with vulnerability, trust, and communications. If you would like one-on-one sessions, let us know and we can find the right balance! 

Mixed orientation relationships are VERY safe at iAmClinic. We have been working with MORs (Mixed Orientation Relationships) since 2010 and have grown rather successful at helping them find their resolutions. We know that there are several directions a MOR can take, so we leave every option on the table. We discuss what direction and choices are right for you and we help you create the path that gets you there with ease. To do so successfully, we take time to fully understand your context, your conflicting urges, and what makes sense for the ways your internal and external worlds meet. 

Although we’d like to quote a piece of psychological research to help you understand the probability of making it work; however, every relationship is different. If reaching a painful decision in therapy is a fear of yours, we want you to tell us about that. Figuring out if you’re not in the right relationship can be very scary and we want to help you talk about that fear. Sharing this with your therapist can be very illuminating, and may actually reach your goal in therapy. 

 The question of compatibility is always a big one. Many people swim in confusion, wondering if their relationships suffer because of personality differences or because their wounding is too deep. We might see patterns in one relationship affect another, allowing us to swim in shame thinking, “Will I ever be healthy enough to make love work?” Compatibility is one thing, but oftentimes relationships are a bit more complex than simply being a “bad fit.”

Queer therapy gets to be unique and needs-based. There are heteronormative standards for when therapy is appropriate and for what challenges. We believe, however, that the lesbian and queer journeys are unique and we must consider our context- from closeted to coming out. It is also very hard to find a partner- our pools are a lot smaller than a cisgender, heteosexual’s dating pool. So if you have found someone worth fighting for, it is never too early to give it all you’ve got.