by iamclinic | Jun 14, 2019 | Self Identity
I went to my first Pride like a closeted gay boy walking through the underwear section at Target—pretending to have a calm, collected countenance, but so desperately wanting to shout for joy at God’s amazing creation: the underwear model. It was important to me that...
by iamclinic | May 24, 2019 | Relationships
Life Dynamic & Long-Term Safety As people invest in one another, they do so—in committed relationships—with the intention of building long-term relational security. Without healthy and consistent doses of thorough communication, it is easy to feel like you might...
by iamclinic | May 24, 2019 | Relationships
Open relationships require major consideration. As one member of a couple, or as a couple, there are many factors to think about when considering opening up your relationship and/or becoming polyamorous, such as attachments and emotional cravings. In part two of this...
by iamclinic | May 17, 2019 | Relationships
Many of us are comfortable talking about sex with friends. We divulge details, share tips and tricks, and even get advice on aspects of our strained sex lives. Talking openly and honestly with our sexual partners, however, comes with a higher level of discomfort....
by iamclinic | May 10, 2019 | Relationships
I built up an incredible amount of frustration stemming from my partner’s behavior. No matter what I said to him, I could not, for the life of me, get him to hear what I was trying to communicate. In those early years, I knew I wanted him to be “the one,” but I had...
by iamclinic | May 3, 2019 | Relationships
Being a couple means that we invest in one another, sharing not just our time and resources, but also our vulnerabilities, our fears, and our hopes. But, when the relationship starts to falter, an entire host of compounding fears can arise: not just of losing the...
by iamclinic | Apr 22, 2019 | Relationships, Sex
For whatever reason, it is always one; one member of a couple will spend time observing the relationship and see a great need for therapy. Out of hope, they identify areas where significant changes can occur, but the idea of approaching their partner with the...
by iamclinic | Apr 19, 2019 | Faith
It was Halloween. I stood in a Scooby Doo outfit made from random pieces of clothing and garments I found in the dusty corners of my closet. We walked into a massive, gay party, me and my queer friends from seminary. I stood talking with a guy who might as well have...
by iamclinic | Apr 18, 2019 | Relationships, Sex
As a clinician who specializes in working with the LGBTQ+ community, I often have conversations around healthy sex. Growing up, many of us had the “birds and the bees” talk, but not many had “birds and birds” or “bees and bees” talks. Like we all know, healthy sex can...
by iamclinic | Apr 5, 2017 | Addiction, Faith
“Emotional cravings, I began to notice, were not my demise, they were God’s blueprints tucked into my soul. When I followed my emotional cravings I was following God’s plan.” After a night of drinking and driving I would slip my key into the lock. It was...
