by iamclinic | Nov 15, 2019 | Relationships, Self Identity
I like to think that counseling is a snowglobe of our expansive relational, emotional and behavioral lives. The counseling office is a safe container to test internal narratives, share embarrassing patterns and learn new ways of existing with fulfillment. That comfy...
by iamclinic | Nov 8, 2019 | Relationships
Outside, a late snow had fallen, even as the first signs of spring had already come up. Inside the retreat center, we were toasty, sipping on coffee and cocoa during a break. I had hosted enough weekend seminars to recognize the signs of someone who needed to talk....
by iamclinic | Oct 30, 2019 | Relationships
I ran to the altar to confess to God what I’d done. The clothes in my suitcase still had sand in them from the beach vacation with a man I called my friend, but who was really my boyfriend…for 5 years. Tears running down my face, thinking I could ugly cry my way back...
by iamclinic | Oct 10, 2019 | Relationships
He had swirled for months, arguing with himself. Parts of him wanted to stay in his heterosexual marriage, and other parts wanted to experience romance, love, and sex with another man. Torn between two fantasies—one including his family and another with an unknown...
by iamclinic | Oct 3, 2019 | Relationships
A growing number of spouses are in some way part of the LGBTQ+ community yet find a great deal of satisfaction in staying with their opposite-sex partner. In these Mixed Orientation relationships, love, history, families and shared emotional intimacy are profound...
by iamclinic | Aug 15, 2019 | Relationships
She was so sincere in wanting to help and understand her coming out husband. She took time to meet with me one-on-one. Wanting nothing more than for her husband to be happy and for their children to go through any transition smoothly, she was eager to learn and love....
by iamclinic | Aug 9, 2019 | Relationships
As a graduate student studying healthy relationships, I felt ashamed at how badly my relationships looked on paper. My friendships and love life were disintegrating like the petals of a plucked rose. I was full of shame. . . and vodka. To figure out how I could get my...
by iamclinic | Jul 30, 2019 | Relationships
I”ll admit it—I was a novice at dating, but I tried my hardest to love the man who showered me with gifts. He provided me with European vacations, cars and an offer of lifetime commitment, but I couldn’t fully settle into our relationship. I was too wide-eyed and...
by iamclinic | Jul 19, 2019 | Relationships
My Partner Says, “We Need Therapy” | Is Gay Couples Therapy Worth the Cost? For the first 15 years of my dating life, playing the role of a committed partner always led me to feel obligated and controlled. Frustrated, I couldn’t understand why I was losing...
by iamclinic | Jul 16, 2019 | Relationships
3 Common Fears of Coming Out as a Parent of an LGBTQ+ Child In the 1920s, Freudian psychology was in fashion. With provocative claims and bold statements, Freud had made himself an authority on human psychology and sexuality. With no scientific research, however,...
