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#9 Discovering Home and Embracing Authenticity: RelationTips Q&A – Part 2

by Isaac Archuleta

Episode Summary In our previous episode, we covered the topic of enmeshment and home, helping the guest find their way to an inward home that ...

General
Queer RelationTips Episode

Considering Open Relationships P3. | Knowing Your Gay Sexbrain Body

by Isaac Archuleta

Given our natural neurology, open relationships will mean different things to different people. Our sexbrain––the name for the various mechanisms found within our physical bodies ...

LGBTQ+ Couples Tips & Advice
LGBTQ+ Sexuality Advice & Tips

Considering Open Relationships P2. | 1 Question for Gay Couples to Consider

by Isaac Archuleta

Two strapping young men sat on my couch, wet boots soaking the office carpet. The heavy rain outside was nothing compared to the ways in ...

LGBTQ+ Couples Tips & Advice
LGBTQ+ Sexuality Advice & Tips

Beyond the Comfy Couch | Applying What You Learned in Therapy to Everyday Life

by Isaac Archuleta

I like to think that counseling is a snowglobe of our expansive relational, emotional and behavioral lives. The counseling office is a safe container to ...

LGBTQ+ Sexuality Advice & Tips

Does My Child Need Therapy or Do I? | 4 Ideas to best Support Yourself & Your Gay Child

by Isaac Archuleta

Outside, a late snow had fallen, even as the first signs of spring had already come up. Inside the retreat center, we were toasty, sipping ...

Advice For Parents of LGBT Youth

Can I Be Gay & Christian? Navigating Your Spirituality & Sexual Orientation

by Isaac Archuleta

I ran to the altar to confess to God what I’d done. The clothes in my suitcase still had sand in them from the beach ...

LGBTQ+ Sexuality Advice & Tips

Emotional Intimacy in Mixed Orientation Marriages

by Isaac Archuleta

A growing number of spouses are in some way part of the LGBTQIA+ community yet find a great deal of satisfaction in staying with their ...

LGBTQ+ Couples Tips & Advice

4 Ways Counseling Can Help Improve Your Connection to Yourself and Your Loved Ones

by Isaac Archuleta

As a graduate student studying healthy relationships, I felt ashamed at how badly my relationships looked on paper. My friendships and love life were disintegrating ...

LGBTQ+ Couples Tips & Advice

My Partner Says, “We Need Therapy” | Is Gay Couples Therapy Worth the Cost?

by Isaac Archuleta

Table Of Contents Introduction Realizing I Needed Professional Help After ensuring I could take care of myself Finding the Right LGBTQ-Affirming Therapist Rebuilding Intimacy as ...

LGBTQ+ Couples Tips & Advice

3 Common Fears of Coming Out as a Parent of an LGBTQ+ Child

by Isaac Archuleta

In the 1920s, Freudian psychology was in fashion. With provocative claims and bold statements, Freud had made himself an authority on human psychology and sexuality. ...

Advice For Parents of LGBT Youth

Religious Parents, Pride and LGBTQ+ Children

by Isaac Archuleta

LGBTQIA+ pride is something that many of us anticipate all year long. Some of us plot the perfect outfit, while others spend hours on the ...

Advice For Parents of LGBT Youth

Pride in Leaving the Closet

by Isaac Archuleta

As a young boy I might have passed out had I glimpsed the future and who I would become. I grew up thinking I’d marry ...

LGBTQ+ Sexuality Advice & Tips

Pride is a Verb

by Isaac Archuleta

I went to my first Pride like a closeted gay boy walking through the underwear section at Target—pretending to have a calm, collected countenance, but ...

LGBTQ+ Sexuality Advice & Tips

Do Open Relationships Work? P2. | Navigating the Common Challenges of Polyamorous Relationships

by Isaac Archuleta

Life Dynamic & Long-Term Safety As people invest in one another, they do so—in committed relationships—with the intention of building long-term relational security. Without healthy ...

LGBTQ+ Couples Tips & Advice

Do Open Relationships work? P1. | Navigating the Common Challenges of Polyamorous Relationships

by Isaac Archuleta

Open relationships require major consideration. As one member of a couple, or as a couple, there are many factors to think about when considering opening ...

LGBTQ+ Couples Tips & Advice

4 Ways Counseling Can Help Improve Relationships With Your LGBTQ+ Partner

by Isaac Archuleta

I built up an incredible amount of frustration stemming from my partner’s behavior. No matter what I said to him, I could not, for the ...

LGBTQ+ Couples Tips & Advice

Is it Time for Counseling? P2. | Healthy Communication Tips When Talking to Your Partner About Counseling

by Isaac Archuleta

Being a couple means that we invest in one another, sharing not just our time and resources, but also our vulnerabilities, our fears, and our ...

LGBTQ+ Couples Tips & Advice

Is it Time for Counseling? P1. | 4 Signals That Gay Couples Should Seek Support

by Isaac Archuleta

For whatever reason, it is always one; one member of a couple will spend time observing the relationship and see a great need for therapy. ...

LGBTQ+ Couples Tips & Advice