As a gay/queer cist-gendered male therapist, my goal is to create a safe space for clients to process layers of trauma related to hetero-normative standards, societal pressures, gender dysphoria, interpersonal relationship dynamics, and/ or religious oppression.
Throughout my childhood and early adolescence, I took on the story of being “too much or too weird” for this world, and never quite able to fit in with the majority, which trickled into my own internalizations about my self-worth and place in this world. This sparked a fire in my curiosity about the field of mental health. I was on a quest to turn my loneliness and insecurities into my own superpowers. I decided to step into a role as a counselor in order to help others do the same; to become more empowered in themselves, and embrace their unique perspective.
Before working at iamClinic, I gained experience at Safehouse Progressive Alliance for Nonviolence (SPAN) in Boulder, CO, focusing on trauma-informed care for survivors of domestic violence. It was here that I grew my knowledge in understanding the impact that abuse has on our nervous system and the steps that need to occur to become more safe and regulated after a traumatizing experience.
I believe in a holistic approach to therapy, focusing on the mind, body, and soul connection. I draw from practices that invite clients to heighten their awareness in the present moment and explore how they react and deal with situations in real life. I believe that therapy can be a space to build the internal tools to be able to better communicate and express emotions. My hope is to help you build on these tools, to expand your potential for a more embodied connection to yourself and the environment that you inhabit.
Credentials
Licensed Professional Counselor Candidate (LPCC)
Master of Arts degree in Clinical Mental Health Counseling
I identify as a queer, neurodivergent, trans person, which deeply informs my work as a clinician. My undergraduate degree is in Cultural Studies with a minor in Women and Gender Studies from Columbia College Chicago. I graduated with my master’s degree in Transpersonal Wilderness Therapy from Naropa University. I am in the process of becoming an IPI Certified Psychedelic-Assisted Therapy Practitioner. I specialize in working with gender dysphoria and neurodiversity.
Often times folks in marginalized communities are forced to choose between attachment and authenticity. The work I do with my clients aims to bridge that gap by fostering a deeper connection to the self. The more we are in touch with our authenticity, the better we can communicate our needs and desires to others. Developing a sense of self-compassion is the cornerstone to loving and accepting ourselves as we are.
I work through a client centered approach which assumes my clients are the experts in who they are. Through mindfulness practice and connection to the natural world, clients will begin to understand themselves in a new light. This deeper insight helps to foster the fertile ground needing for healing. I am committed to providing a non-judgmental and empathic space for clients to explore their inner world. Through a collaborative process, I aim to help my clients find the tools to regulate their nervous system and achieve their therapeutic goals.
After confronting devastating questions of sexuality and gender with parents who pastored a conservative church, Isaac quickly realized there were very few resources for his family. He also learned that there were very few safe places where he could learn about his true identity without judgment or predetermined agendas. Over 10 years later, Isaac has grown the iAmClinic team to 10+ therapists and launched a sister company, iAmCouncil, to provide life and relationship coaching to individuals nationwide!
I chose counseling because I was once a young closeted kid that felt incredibly lonely, anxious, and lost. In wanting to heal and grow, it was important for me to find the answers for kids like me and families like mine, so that we could all experience the true connection and utter satisfaction I so deeply craved. It was with this motivation that iAmClinic was born. Before iAmClinic and the completion of my graduate studies, I spent time working in Child Protection and served as a project supervisor for a counseling program in the nonprofit world. I also worked in the main operating room at The Children’s Hospital.
As a professional counselor, I use the techniques and insights given to the field of talk therapy by seminal authors/researchers like Pia Mellody, Terrence Real, Peter Levine, and Bessel van der Kolk. I interweave research-based modalities like Neurofeedback, Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing, and Somatic Experiencing, as well as empirically-based theories such as Attachment Theory, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, and Feminist Theory into my practice. As I stepped out of the closet with anxiety, depression, and many unwanted behavioral patterns, I saw my healing journey as not only personally necessary, but as professionally worth it. I not only wanted to talk the talk, but also walk the walk. And as a clinician I believe it is important to be equipped with the knowledge, treatment interventions, and the skills to be effective in all facets of my clients lives so that I can offer the healing that changed my life to others. I believe in therapy, not because I have read a bunch of books, but because I am one major success story. When clients walk out of my office for the last time, I want them to feel the same liberty, connectedness, and internal peace therapy helped me discover.
Credentials
Master of Arts in Clinical Mental Health Counseling
11+ Years Of Experience
Served as Executive Director for one of the longest standing LGBTQIA+ organizations
Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) Certified
I began working in the community mental health field in 2012 in northern Arizona, learning the best practices for working with culturally diverse populations addressing a breadth of mental health concerns. I believe in a holistic approach that involves assessing our brain, mind and context. Our thoughts, values and beliefs are molded by not only our experiences but informed and endless bombardment of information. Peace and ease come from alignment of all of our parts.
In addition to working with the individual, I work with couples using the Gottman Method emphasizing communication and recognizing how trauma impacts our experience in intimate relationships.
Credentials
Master of Arts in degree in Clinical Mental Health Counseling
Board certified with the Biofeedback Certification International Alliance (BCIA)
In my own journey through life, therapy has had a profound positive impact on my confidence, happiness, energy, and sense of peace. My own healing has led me towards becoming a therapist to help heal our hurting world, one person at a time. It is my hope that we can work together to help you find love and acceptance for all of yourself and the peaceful confidence that comes with it.
I recognize that this can be quite challenging due to societal standards, expectations, and pressures that influence the stories that we tell ourselves, especially when coming out and being true to ourselves is met with resistance or worse from others. I am passionate about working with individuals struggling with anxiety, depression, shame, self-esteem, sexual or gender identity and other LGBTQIA+ issues, life transitions, body image, relationship/family/friendship issues, psychedelic integration, personal motivation, or fitting into societal expectations or “norms.” I am also excited to work with and support romantic monogamous or ENM relationships using the Gottman method and Emotionally Focused Therapy.
I am currently a graduate student studying Clinical Mental Health Counseling at Naropa University, with a concentration in Mindfulness-Based Transpersonal Counseling. I have a Master’s degree in Higher Education and Student Affairs, and have been in helping professional positions for the past 8 years. I have a background in Motivational Interviewing and continue to utilize a Person-Centered approach to therapy in order to individualize the therapeutic experience to what your needs are.
The connection between therapist and client continues to be shown to be incredibly important for healing, so I wanted to take a moment to tell you a bit about me. I am a gay/queer, polyamorous, white, cis-man in my early 30’s. I was raised atheist but spent time in my early adulthood exploring various religions, and now identify as spiritual and enjoy a lot of Buddhist teachings. In my free time, I enjoy lifting weights, meditating, cooking, listening to podcasts and audiobooks and playing video games or board games.
Marriage is a beautiful union, but it can also come with its fair share of challenges. For LGBTQIA+ couples, navigating the complexities of a relationship can be even more nuanced, as they often face unique societal pressures and experiences. This is where marriage counseling can be an invaluable resource, providing a safe and inclusive space to work through conflicts, strengthen communication, and deepen the bond between partners.
If you’re an LGBTQIA+ couple in Denver considering marriage counseling, you may have questions about what to expect from the process. In this blog post, we’ll explore the key aspects of marriage counseling tailored specifically for LGBTQIA+ individuals by the team at iAmClinic, ensuring you feel prepared and empowered to take this important step towards a healthier, more fulfilling relationship.
Understanding the Unique Challenges Faced by LGBTQIA+ Couples
LGBTQIA+ couples often face challenges that heterosexual couples may not encounter. These can include:
Societal stigma and discrimination
Lack of familial support or acceptance
Navigating the complexities of gender identity and expression
Dealing with internalized homophobia or transphobia
Navigating the legal and logistical aspects of marriage equality
The skilled marriage counselors at iAmClinic who specialize in working with LGBTQIA+ couples will have a deep understanding of these challenges and be equipped to address them with sensitivity and expertise.
Finding an LGBTQIA+ Affirming Counselor
One of the most important aspects of successful marriage counseling for LGBTQIA+ couples is finding a counselor who is affirming and knowledgeable about LGBTQIA+ challenges. At iAmClinic, our counselors have received specialized training to create a safe, non-judgmental environment where you can openly discuss your experiences without fear of discrimination or misunderstanding.
The counselors don’t consider the queer and trans communities a specialty as outsiders because we are part of the queer and trans communities. We explicitly state our affirmation of LGBTQIA+ identities and experience. As we work with LGBTQIA+ couples, we ensure you feel comfortable and understood throughout the counseling process.
Intersectionality and Cultural Competence
At iAmClinic, we recognize that the LGBTQIA+ experience is not a one-size-fits-all journey. Each individual’s identity is shaped by the intersections of their sexual orientation, gender identity, race, ethnicity, religion, and various other cultural factors. Our counselors are trained to approach each couple’s unique situation with intersectional awareness and cultural competence.
We understand that LGBTQIA+ individuals from diverse backgrounds may face compounded challenges and discrimination. For example, a queer person of color might experience racism within the LGBTQIA+ community, as well as homophobia or transphobia within their racial or ethnic community. A devoutly religious LGBTQIA+ individual might struggle with reconciling their faith and identity. These intersections can create complex emotional and psychological landscapes that require a nuanced and culturally sensitive approach.
Our counselors are committed to creating a safe and affirming space where all aspects of your identities are respected and validated. We take the time to understand your unique cultural contexts, lived experiences, and the ways in which your multiple identities intersect and influence your relationship dynamics.
Through ongoing training and education, our counselors stay informed about the latest research and best practices in intersectional and culturally responsive counseling. We actively work to dismantle our own biases and assumptions, continually expanding our knowledge and awareness of the diverse experiences within the LGBTQIA+ community.
Whether you’re navigating cultural or familial expectations, exploring the intersections of your gender and racial identities, or seeking support in integrating your spirituality and sexuality, our counselors are here to provide a compassionate and culturally competent space for your journey.
Preparation and Expectations
Taking the step towards marriage counseling can be both exciting and daunting. At iAmClinic, we understand that preparation and knowing what to expect can help alleviate some of the uncertainties and anxieties that come with starting this process. Here’s what you can anticipate and how to prepare for your marriage counseling sessions:
Before Your First Session:
Reflect on your goals and intentions for seeking counseling. What specific issues or concerns would you like to address?
Have an open and honest conversation with your partner about your reasons for seeking counseling and your shared expectations.
Make a list of questions or topics you’d like to discuss during the initial session.
The First Session:
Expect the counselor to ask about your relationship history, individual backgrounds, and current challenges.
Be prepared to discuss your goals and expectations for counseling openly.
The counselor will likely outline their approach, establish ground rules for the sessions, and explain confidentiality policies.
This session is an opportunity for you and the counselor to get to know each other and determine if it’s a good fit.
Subsequent Sessions:
Your counselor will guide you through various exercises and techniques to improve communication, conflict resolution, and emotional intimacy.
Be open to trying new strategies and approaches, even if they may feel uncomfortable initially.
Expect homework assignments or activities to practice between sessions.
Once there is stability in communication and interactions, your therapist will begin attuning to emotional dynamics, peeling back layers to ensure your challenges are cut off from the root.
Be patient and trust the process. Counseling can be challenging, but it’s a journey toward a stronger, more fulfilling relationship.
Getting the Most Out of Counseling:
Approach each session with an open mind and a willingness to be vulnerable and honest.
Actively participate in the exercises and discussions.
Follow through with any homework or assignments provided by the counselor.
Be patient and consistent with the process. Change takes time and commitment.
Communicate openly with your counselor and provide feedback on what’s working or what you might need more support with.
At iAmClinic, our goal is to create a safe, supportive, and productive environment for your marriage counseling journey. By preparing mentally and emotionally, you’ll be better equipped to engage fully in the process and maximize the benefits for your relationship.
The Counseling Process for LGBTQIA+ Couples
Marriage counseling for LGBTQIA+ couples typically follows a similar structure to counseling for heterosexual couples, but with a focus on addressing the unique challenges and experiences of LGBTQIA+ individuals.
During the initial session, the counselor will gather information about your relationship history, current concerns, and goals for counseling. They may also explore your individual identities, experiences with discrimination or trauma, and any specific issues related to your sexual orientation or gender identity.
Subsequent sessions will delve deeper into communication strategies, conflict resolution techniques, and exercises to strengthen your emotional intimacy and understanding of each other’s perspectives. The counselor may also provide guidance on navigating legal or logistical aspects of your relationship, such as navigating the complexities of marriage equality or dealing with unsupportive family members.
Throughout the process, the counselor will create a safe, non-judgmental space for you to openly discuss your experiences, feelings, and concerns without fear of discrimination or misunderstanding.
Benefits of Marriage Counseling for LGBTQIA+ Couples
Marriage counseling can offer numerous benefits for LGBTQIA+ couples, including:
2. A deeper understanding and acceptance of each other’s identities, personality type, and experiences with tools to feel balance that leaves you feeling safe and satisfied
3. Strategies for coping with societal stigma and discrimination
4. Tools for navigating the complexities of gender identity and expression
5. Guidance on navigating legal and logistical aspects of marriage equality
6. A stronger, more fulfilling, and supportive relationship
By seeking marriage counseling from an LGBTQIA+ affirming counselor, you and your partner can embark on a journey of self-discovery, healing, and growth, ultimately strengthening the foundation of your relationship.
Taking the First Step
If you’re an LGBTQIA+ couple in Denver considering marriage counseling, know that you’re not alone in your journey. The team at iAmClinic is dedicated to providing a safe, inclusive, and affirming space for you to explore the challenges and joys of your relationship.
Don’t hesitate to reach out and schedule an initial consultation with one of iAmClinic’s recommended LGBTQIA+ affirming counselors. This first step can be the beginning of a transformative journey towards a deeper understanding, stronger bond, and a more fulfilling partnership.
Remember, your relationship deserves to be celebrated, nurtured, and supported, and marriage counseling at iAmClinic can be an invaluable tool in achieving that goal.
I graduated from the forensic psychology program at the University of Denver and started my career at a local community mental health clinic in Minnesota prior to working at the Mayo Clinic in Rochester, Minnesota. My career has centered on addressing the needs of marginalized communities (e.g. LGBTQIA+, people of color, individuals in the justice system, etc.). I have done extensive research and presentations in diversity, equity, inclusion, and intersectionality (the layers of our identities).
My approach to therapy is to meet my client where they are at along their lifelong journey towards contentment, success, and understanding their own intersectionality. Many of us bring different “selves” with us to each interaction in life, whether that be our gender, race/ethnicity, mental health diagnosis, or attachment style. My goal is to help individuals understand how all of these parts of ourselves interact and how we can best approach a life worth living while navigating daily obstacles and life’s transitions. I am trained in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT), Motivational Interviewing techniques, and provide both person-centered and trauma-focused treatment. My counseling style is interactive, compassionate, and collaborative with an appropriate use of humor, when applicable. We will work alongside one another as a team throughout your treatment with you leading as the expert on your life, needs, and wants the entire way.
Credentials
Master’s of Arts in Forensic Psychology
Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor (Minnesota)
Trained in Motivational Interviewing (MI) and Dialectical Behavior Therapy for Adults (DBT)
Certificate of Completion in Collaborative Assessment and Management of Suicidality (CAMS) Training from American Association of Suicidology
After a long season of tolerating major stressors, my husband and I stared to spiral a bit. In all of our busyness we started to neglect one another and it was our emotional needs that suffered the most. He had shutdown and I had resorted to anger. We were both resentful. I had, slowly over time, forgotten to implement the stabilizing techniques upon which our relationship was built. It was our turn for couples therapy. Regardless if your a seasoned therapist like me, in a 20 year relationship, or a 2-month situationship, the following steps might just help you get your relationship up and running, but this time with a little more ease.
Step 1: Learn how to implement mature boundaries
LGBTQIA+ couples or polycules usually start their relationships, like everyone else, with the need to negotiate new boundaries. When we have poor boundaries we are convinced that we can manage someone else’s comfort- and more so that our partner should be capable and willing to manage ours. A mature boundary system is like a snow globe keeping our emotional temperature regulated no matter what happens on the other side of the glass dome. Demanding that our partner leaves their snow globe to adjust the thermostat inside our snow globes, we start to judge their performance based on how well they can keep us comfortable, happy, pleased, seen, etc.
As a means of stopping repeating arguments and in attempt to create a healthy dynamic inside of your relationship(s), learn to regulate your emotional climate instead of demanding that your partner(s) do it for you. A poor boundary system will keeping you emotionally jabbing your partner for more in ways that don’t clearly communicate your needs. The jabs themselves are violations of normal and healthy boundaries and these violations can set your relationship up for resentment and escalating pain. A healthy boundary system will not only keep the emotional interactions organized and healthy, but you will also create a safety that will allow your partner(s) to grow in authenticity and vulnerability. Speaking of vulnerability…
Step 2: Practice vulnerability
Opening up emotionally has all sorts of fears and baggage that come with it. As children our needs and wants, as well as our honesty and our insecurities might have been squashed. Dating and all the ways we’re trained to manage one another’s thermostats has convinced us that our needs and wants don’t matter. I have seen it time and time again: not talking about what you emotional crave will set you up to get it elsewhere. Cheating, lying, or building resentment that comes out as anger or criticism will be the new accessory to your relational decor. And trust me, you don’t want that.
No matter where vulnerability went array or how, it is hard to find the safety to open up, especially about our emotional needs. Expressing your desire for more attention, more thrill, a deeper sense of connection, or the need to be seen in a more significant way can feel completely awkward and possibly even selfish. But don’t give up too soon. Vulnerability will not only change your relationship, it will change the ways you experience love, trust honesty, and grow in self-esteem.
Step 3: Weekly Check-ins
Terrence Real, a world-class relationship expert, had an idea that transformed my marriage: Arena Times.
Having a weekly meeting on your calendar to share your thoughts, express your pains, and articulate your needs and wants is a great opportunity to not only practice boundaries and vulnerability, but also to repair your relationship.
Having a set weekly time for Arena Times not only helps stabilize your sense of being safe, but it will also keep your connection honest and—dare I say—sexy. Emotional intimacy will produce sexual intimacy.
In this blog entry I listed Arena Times after boundaries and vulnerability on purpose. You will need mature boundaries and healthy vulnerability before entering weekly check-ins. Let me give you one small, yet profound piece of advice: enter the arena willing to loose. When we enter to loose, we stay humble, we show up willing to grow, and we come prepared to be curious about our partner’s pain and needs- a curiosity that is like a healing balm for any relationship. Obviously, Arena Times can be very heavy at first, especially for a relationship that has a weak infrastructure. But once your structure is solid, Arena Times will decorate your relationship with safety, honesty, and a connection that will protect the relationship even through the roughest storms.
Don’t Let This Opportunity Slip Away – Take Control of Your Relationship Today!
If you’re ready to invest in your relationship and unlock its full potential, consider working with a licensed therapist or relationship coach. Professional guidance can provide invaluable insights, tools, and support tailored to your unique circumstances.
Take action today and commit to nurturing your relationship. Your future self will thank you for prioritizing this essential aspect of your life. Connect with us to schedule a consultation and embark on a journey towards a more fulfilling, emotionally connected partnership.
