A LGBT Counseling Practice Created with You in Mind
As counselors, it is highly important that we are prepared for whatever life might bring your way. In some scenarios, it is necessary to navigate the waters with your therapist individually. In other situations, though, we’ll need to dismantle challenges between you and your loved one(s). That’s why we have several options for you to choose from.
Whether your confronting a relational hurdle or internal block, we have an option that will help you address your concerns in the right format with the right services. And if you’re not sure just how to get the ball rolling don’t worry, we’ll be able to point you in the right direction.
- COUPLE'S COUNSELING
- ANXIETY & DEPRESSION
- PARENTS OF LGBTQIA-IDENTIFYING CHILDREN
- SEXUALITY & GENDER
- SEXUAL ABUSE SURVIVORS
Anger always leaves us feeling out of control. When it becomes a repeating pattern, we promise ourselves that we’ll do it better next time. And when the next time comes we end up breaking our self-trust and shame settles in. We tell ourselves we’ll be like this forever. We feel damaged from the inside out.
It is important to know that anger turns on by two small portions of the brain called the amygdala. These powerful bundles of neurons tell the body how to protect itself. And unfortunately, when they’re activated we lose brain functioning in other important areas of the brain like rational language and rational thinking.
At iAmClinic, we are prepared to help you practice skills that will impede inappropriate anger. And as you rebuild self-trust, we will help you unpack the angry moments so that you can identify the true trigger and shift from anger to peace. We’ll also help you discover language to effectively communicate your way through heated moments and skills to protect your integrity and relationships.
- Control your body when triggers flare
- Rebuild self-trust and confidence to stay calm
- Protect the relationship from anger so the spotlight lands on the true issue
- Learning skills to talk through challenges effectively
We often feel hopeless in our relationships, especially after trying so hard to achieve relational repair. After feeling like we’ve spun our tires in the mud for months on end, we wonder if we’ll ever remember what it’s like to be passionate in our love life.
The therapists at iAmClinic have worked with hundreds of gay, lesbian, and bisexual couples since our doors first opened. We’ve seen couples that need a simple tune up and couples that get caught up in the data- who said what, who did what, and who was at fault. Many couples get stuck keeping tally while the resentment accumulates like a snowball rolling down a massive hill.
Whether you’re looking for the comfort of periodic professional help or are facing incredible challenges, our therapists will attune to your needs efficiently, to experience the power of both empathy and attachment repair. We’ll help you understand what keeps your relationships from thriving and we’ll give you the skills to overcome your challenges. As you work toward reigniting your lost passion, we’ll not only help you stabilize your relationship with effective communication, but we’ll also help clear up the root system that created the challenges in the first place.
- Protect the relationship from resentment
- Learning how to balance healthy independence and healthy dependence
- Develop communication skills, such as empathy and listening
- Deconstruct and transition out of repeating arguments
- Learn how to quickly return to attachment repair when arguments arise
ANXIETY & DEPRESSION COUNSELING
Anxiety can leave us feeling unsafe with our most trusted friends and family, while depression creates the impression that we will never find happiness and pleasure again. Both anxiety and depression leave us feeling helpless. And we wonder if their presences will ever leave our bodies.
Anxiety and depression remain powerful because they create a self-sustaining system in our thought life. And as we cycle through this system, our brain chemistry lends itself to helping maintain the patterns we’re desperate to destroy. Battling anxiety and depression requires that we work with your physical body so that we can help the brain’s chemistry find its healthy balance once again.
We will work diligently to help you resort your sense of joy, as well as reignite internal peace and stability.
- Learn what triggers your depression or anxiety
- Develop tactical skills to manage anxiety
- Understand how to reverse the effects of depression
- Root your identity in power, confidence, and strength so that you can avoid anxiety and depression in the future
Examining gender identity, faith, and sexual orientation side-by-side can be a painful task. Holding the tenants of your faith close by, as you confront sexual and gender identities, is incredibly important for most. Many parents of LGBTQ-identifying children want to protect their son or daughter from making an irreversible mistake, while adolescents and adult children want to ensure that their guiding their lives in the right direction.
Although therapists have often been accused of having a hidden agenda, we are sure to provide ethical services to our clients. We understand that sexuality and gender have significant ties to faith-based concerns and we also respect the importance of moral decision-making. This means that while you examine your sexual orientation or gender identity- or that of a loved one- through the lens of spirituality, we will be sure to listen to your value system so that while you make decisions, you feel responsible, moral, and peaceful.
- Navigate the confusing waters where sexual and gender identities interact with spirituality
- Navigate the coming out of a daughter or son in a religious home with wisdom oriented toward family cohesion
- Guided by your faith values, create a plan that will help you and your family live peacefully connected
PARENTS OF LGBTQIA-IDENTIFYING CHILDREN
For many parents and loved ones, learning of a hidden gay, lesbian, bisexual, or transgender identity can be rather confusing. It can even feel like a betrayal. Hearing a loved admit that they are gay or trans can onset a deep sense of grief. It’s a process for which you will need a lot of support.
Coming to an authentic understanding and expression of sexual orientation or gender identity mandates that we consider many aspects: 1) emotional cravings, 2) self-understandings, 3) social setting, and for some 4) religious considerations. It requires serious attention and patient wisdom.
Many parents want to be part of this decision-making process, while others are either eager to celebrate or derogate their children’s news.
Whether you’re trying to establish an authentic identity, needing to make some necessary changes, or trying to help a loved one create their healthiest and happiest life, we are here to help.
We are sure that you might have many questions and many concerns. As a practice that specializes in sexuality, gender, and relationships we are fully prepared to assist you -or you and your family- make decisions that are accurate, safe, and those that will lead to a rewarding life.
- Learn how to balance healthy boundaries with appropriate workability
- Build a relational dynamic that leaves you feeling understood, cared for, and respected
- Meet in the middle in a way that helps you understand the situation without feeling compromised
SEXUALITY & GENDER COUNSELING
Sexuality and gender are aspects of human development that are characterized by many theories, some current and some outdated. Unfortunately, the variety of theories that attempt to explain human sexuality and gender can leave us aimlessly spinning or waging a debate within our family.
Facing your own coming out as LGBT, or the coming out of a loved one, could very well send us on a hunt for answers. We might consider where the feelings and desires originate. We might want to understand how to make decisions that not only reflect authenticity, but that also protect the longevity of our relationships.
A coming out can be filled with many questions, concerns, and fears. We consider if we’re making the right decisions. We are often forced to make choices, some that have a temporary impact and some that will be forever irreversible.
And that is why iAmClinic is here. Whether you are trying to understand your sexual orientation or gender identity, or that of a loved one, our staff is highly skilled to help you plot forward steps with dignity, safety, and true peace of mind.
- Learn how to make decisions with genuine confidence, rather than from within the traps of fear
- Make space for your authentic voice by learning what is most authentic of your life and identity
- Grip the assertiveness to create the life you want
- Consider all options with a safe and supportive counselor
Powerlessness, broken self-trust, feelings of inadequacy, and fear characterize the haunting nature of addictions. Addictions can distort our internal world with a powerful iron fist. Feeling helpless, we wonder if our addictions will ravage our lives. We fear the proverbial “rock bottom,” wondering if we must be devastated to make significant changes. Facing an addiction doesn’t require a devastating event. It takes consistency.
In this light, battling an addiction requires that we pay attention to common moving pieces. We want to be mindful of your patterned responses, the ways you withhold your breath emotionally, and the areas where you might be starving for vitality and thrill. While giving serious attention to your internal health, we’ll also help you develop behavioral tactics to protect yourself from unwanted or harmful behaviors.
At iAmClinic, we will ensure that we help you tackle your addiction in a way that empowers your sense of capability and avoids using shame as a motivator. We will help you address the pain that might underscore your addictive patterns and give you reasons to feel confident as you overcome the repetitions that might be stifling your growth.
We’re here to remind you that your addiction isn’t stronger than you. And we’re also here to help you create the victory you’ve been craving.
- Understand how to undo the shame that keeps the cycle going
- Learn how to acknowledge the underlying mechanisms so you can choose the behaviors you want
- Reconnect with your confidence by regaining your own trust
- Recreate the self-dialogue that is full of self-esteem and true satisfaction
SEXUAL ABUSE SURVIVOR COUNSELING
Surviving a sexual assault or trauma will often leave a major impact on our lives. While memories plague our peace of mind, we might remain distant to affection, intimacy, and find it hard to feel comfortable in our lover’s arms. For many of us who’ve experienced sexual abuse it is common to feel a lowered sense of self-esteem, and sometimes we even treat ourselves with disrespect.
Working through a sexually traumatic experience can be utterly debilitating or nearly impossible. And that’s why we’re here. The therapists at iAmClinic are fully prepared to create a safe place that will help you reverse the influences of sexual trauma. We will walk alongside you while ensuring that you reclaim your life, body, and peace of mind.
- Get the skills to control your anxiety and depression to take your life back
- Work through the traumatic affects while benefiting from the safety and support of a seasoned trauma therapist
- Return to peaceful relationships, enjoyable sex, and deep connections
Meeting the specific needs that you may have, individual sessions are tailored to fully address your challenges with caution, care, and detailed consideration. Working with your primary therapist, you’ll be able to understand the anatomy of your discomfort, what it takes to deconstruct it, and how to build happiness and peace.
Many couples get stuck in the web they created either unintentionally or subconsciously. Your couple’s therapist will be able to determine how the web was made and how to tear it down. We’ll help you communicate efficiently, honoring one another’s version of the truth, and create patterns for staying connected for the long haul.
Parents feel disrespected and frustrated while their children feel trapped and invisible. Although the ongoing power struggle keeps families hopeless, your family therapist will work to dismantle the entrenched dynamics that keep you arguing. It is our goal to ensure you know how to create connectedness, even in the most challenging circumstances.
Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) can sound very intense, but it’s very easy and highly beneficial. EMDR is incredibly successful in treating anxiety, relational patterns, addictions, and phobias.
“It changed my life! I used to have daily anxiety, but since EMDR I haven’t felt anxious in years.” – Isaac
In the Colorado area, but not close to our office? Bad winter weather blocking you from the roads? We offer online sessions to keep you moving toward your goals. Research has proven that online session can be just as effective as in-person sessions. Although we need to consider some pragmatics, online therapy could be a good fit for you!